A few years ago, I met someone who told me that they thought that nobody’s story mattered — that we revolve around the idea that story matters too much and that it ultimately limits the human experience.
Okay, you’re probably thinking what I was thinking, which is that you think this person is a total jerk (or a robot).
I imagine them being on a first date and when their date asks them how they grew up, they just respond “it doesn’t matter and it doesn’t matter how you grew up either.”
I was just meeting this person but they were friends with some of my most trusted friends, so I knew this person couldn’t be a total jerk (or a robot), so instead of totally writing them off, I decided I would press into the conversation a bit and challenge them on it.
So, I asked them why they thought story didn’t matter.
From there, I learned that they believed that story limits a person from becoming someone they want to be. They believed that a person uses past experiences as some sort of answer to why they are who they are, thinking that’s who they will always be, thus creating some sort of endless loop (which in a sense, this person isn’t wrong).
I left that conversation thinking a lot about this perspective. I think that person who I met a couple of years ago had an interesting view of the world and who we are as humans.
That conversation gave me a lot to consider, however, I do still think that a person’s story does matter.
Our story, the thing that most of us think makes us who we are and the reason WHY we are, matters.
Storytelling has been around since consciousness. Story is the thing passed down that created the myths and legends of our ancestors. Storytelling was the way we has humans knew and understood the world before the written word, and then after that, it only expanded and evolved from there.
Now to not get too philosophical because honestly, I get a little bored of philosophy most of the time, but I wanted to expand on this just from being a fairly open person on the internet — story connects us.
Before I started this blog, I was already getting DMs about how open I am about pain, confusion, exciting things happening, comparison, breakups, death, new business ideas, failures, etc, because I share about my story all the time on instagram like this post:
And this post:
And posts like this go back for years.
Now that I started this blog, even as new as it is, I’ve been receiving so many more emails, DMs, and comments about how someone connected with my story in some way. That my story offered some sort of relief to them.
By sharing my story, it made someone else feel less alone.
My DMs lately have been full of other people’s stories because something that I said resonated with them and they wanted to let me know why.
So why am I writing about this?
I’m sitting down writing this after just coming back from a four-mile walk on the greenway. I love listening to podcasts while I walk and today I was listening to a podcast about how connecting with people means taking them on a journey — which automatically made me think of the person I met back then.
It made me think about how many experiences I’ve had just by being open, which made me start thinking about how this can be a reminder for you, who is reading this right now, to do the same thing.
Who you are and WHY you are when shared, can lead to a ripple effect of connection and relief to so many people.
You may have no idea and may never really know about your impact — but you, just by being who you are and by going through the experiences you’ve gone through, matters. You are here and that’s a big deal.
Your story matters. You are a big deal.
So I just want to challenge you to open up.
It doesn’t have to be public if that’s not your jam, but maybe it’s sharing something about yourself to a friend that you’ve intensionally left out because you felt like you would be misunderstood.
One thing I used to tell myself was that people would think that my story was “too much” and honestly, maybe it was for some people, and that’s okay.
Reminder: Even if it is too much for someone, that doesn’t mean you should stop sharing all together. Here’s the kicker, it doesn’t mean rejection either. We all have thresholds and boundaries, that’s normal.
Anyway, I was just sitting here thinking about this and wanted to share it with you! If you feel like this resonated with you, let me know in the comments below then come over to instagram and send me a dm! I’d love to hear from you.
If you want to read about MY story, you can go check out this blog post.